Male PMS

My DH has got a severe case of it lately.

My hubby, he is a worry wart. I swear it is bred into him. All of the Portuguese people I know are natural born worriers. I am more of a cest la vie kind of girl. I mean, I will do what I can to make our lives more positive, but I can let things go and just be.

Our dairy is coming up for rent soon. He has several people looking at the place and he is just dying to get one tied down. It is consuming him. We went out to dinner last night and that was all he talked about. I just sit back and let it go in one ear and out the other. Frankly, I know it will all work out fine. He is never convinced of that and thinks the world is going to end if he doesn't do something NOW!!! He stews and brings things up from the past. "We should have done this, we should have done that" Well, you know what? You didn't. So get over it and move on. He has such a hard time letting things go.

It has made him cranky and moody and no fun to be around. And yet he still wants me to be intimate with him. Frankly, it's the last thing on my mind. I don't feel good. Evenings have been the worst. And when he is a total jerk all day and then lays down in bed and becomes Mr. Happy, well, I can't do that. I feel like that condones his behavior and that is not acceptable. I realize he is under a lot of stress, but how does he think that affects me when I have to walk on pins and needles because he may be having a pissy day?

So, not getting any makes him crankier and more of a jerk. Last night, we were watching TV in the living room and he just gets up and goes to bed. Doesn't say anything to me. Alrighty then. I went to bed when the program was over and he tried to get frisky with me. Hello, asshole, you can't even give me the common courtesy to say goodnight and then you expect me to give you some? No thank you. It's such a viscous cycle. How do you break that?

I just wish he could find some peace in his life. I wish he could learn that he can give all of his worries to God and He will take care of it. I've tried to tell him that, but he really hasn't grasped how that works yet. He wasn't raised that way. If he could just learn to let things go and move forward he would be so much happier. And more content in every way.